I'm not interested in the accouterments of S&M because I think they are dopey but I like the psychology of it: "going under" "being in the right headspace" "safe words" etc... I think of actualfax Tommy as someone who enjoys the novelty of having a larger more dominant person to make out with that he has in Adam. Whether they get drunk and for real make out or just keep it to the show I think he enjoys it. I also see him as a competent dom w a girl too. He makes aggressive affectionate gestures like Adam, such as throat grabbing.
It probably is very novel, isn't it? I hadn't really thought about that, but especially considering how Tommy's so obviously a cuddler...I can see how he could just enjoy the sensation of a larger person to cuddle.
It's always a real mindfuck for me when I get flirty with a girl who expects to always be the passive/submissive one, and forces me into the active/dominant role. I really have to shift my whole perception of myself and my patterns of behavior around. Honestly it's sort of unnerving, but I bet having it be part of a stage act for Tommy fixes a lot of that problem. He's a supporting musician for a frontman, so he's not moving that far to get to the submissive role, and it's for art instead of part of RL behavior, so he doesn't have to change his perception of himself. He can test-drive the new role with a lot of the danger stripped away, and see if he likes it. Which he obviously does! ;)
I see this also. Tommy's personality is such that he very much has switch potential. And honestly, if this were not the case, I doubt I would be attracted to him.
Maybe it's a situational thing. With Adam, whom he already adores and respects, he goes sub. Maybe he never even realized it in himself but Adam draws it out of him
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I see this also. Tommy's personality is such that he very much has switch potential. And honestly, if this were not the case, I doubt I would be attracted to him.
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Maybe it's a situational thing. With Adam, whom he already adores and respects, he goes sub. Maybe he never even realized it in himself but Adam draws it out of him